Another Marriage Prerequisite

Weddings

I do weddings.

But let me be honest, weddings aren’t always fun, and they are most certainly never easy. I do weddings, but I don’t always want to.

weddingWhy don’t I want to do weddings every time I am asked? Because so many know so little about what marriage is, where it came from, what it means, or what it will take to make it work. For crying out loud, most people that say they want to get married don’t even know the person to whom they are about to commit.

I do weddings, yes, but I require pre-marital counseling. Period.

Counseling

I have several things that I require a couple to go through before I will consent to marry them. Aside from the basic questions that must be asked, a while back I decided to require anyone I marry to watch 2 movies:

  1. Fireproof
  2. Courageous

You see, I figure it this way – if you really want to get married, then you should be able to watch a couple of movies and then talk about them. If you can’t do that, or if you’re just too rushed, then you don’t need to get married; you are already starting off on the wrong foot.

Additional Requirement

Now I have a new requirement. On top of Fireproof and Courageous, I have another video to watch before anyone hears, “I now pronounce you man and wife.” My daughter recently showed me a video she watched at camp. The first time I watched it I cried. I was forced to admit I have not been the godly husband I need to be.

I have been preaching through the book of Ephesians on Sunday nights. This past Sunday night we came to the part in chapter five that deals with “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord,” and “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church…” (Eph. 5:22, 25). It is a touchy section in this day and age, but it shouldn’t be, at least not with those who understand the meaning of marriage and the “mystery” of the church (Eph. 5:32). Too many come to the “submit” part and stop. They fail to understand that “submission” in marriage goes both ways; that marriage is to be a reflection of Christ and the church; and that the wife’s “submission” and husband’s “love” are supposed to work in conjunction.

However you want to argue it, though, if the husband would love his wife like Jesus loved us, then there would be a lot more happy wives out there, not to mention healthy families and lasting marriages.

What we need, ladies and gentlemen, is a “Crucifixion Type Love.

Watch the video.

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3 responses to “Another Marriage Prerequisite

  1. Wow! Great video. My husband and I married at just 19 years old. We had no idea what we were doing, and only thought we knew what it meant to be married. We spent 10 years struggling, almost to the point of separation. Praise God, he heard our prayers, healed our wounds, and blessed our marriage. We now have a God centered marriage and I thank Him every day for bringing us together. I pray that we can raise our children to understand the seriousness of marriage. I pray that we can teach our little girl that marriage is not a fairy tail, but with God as the main focus, it can be one of the greatest journeys ever taken. Thank you for sharing this and for taking your responsibility as a minister seriously enough to require these things of those you marry. God bless you!

  2. What a powerful video. If we had more men love their wives this way what an amazing change we would see! Thanks for sharing!

  3. I should have believed you when you said this was a tearjerker before watching it at work……
    But seriously, a great video. My husband and I did some short premarital counseling and it made us think about questions we had never thought to ask each other before, definitely helpful.

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