19th on the 18th

Our Anniversary!

Last year I wrote a post celebrating 18 years of marriage to the most beautiful woman in the world, my wife. Now that another year has come and gone, I thought it would be appropriate to celebrate again. I’m so glad Valerie and I are still together, which is a blessing and a miracle. I don’t deserve such a gift.

Valerie has asked me several times in the past, “If you could do it over again, would you still marry me?” To be honest, there were times when answering that question was difficult, especially back around 1999-2001. During those days I was going through the lowest time of my life, but she stood by me.

If Valerie was to ask me that question today, however, the answer would be a resounding “YES!”

It takes time!

So many people get divorced after a few years of marriage, never staying in it long enough to work through the hard times. In doing so, they miss out on the treasures that years of faithfulness bring. Because they give up too early, they uproot seeds before they have time to germinate, never being able to experience the fruit of a life-long relationship taking root.

The past year has brought with it many heartaches and sorrows. Valerie has had to endure much physical pain which has tested our faith and pushed us to the limits; the loss of income has been terribly stressful; and crisis after crisis has taken an emotional toll on us all. Yet, after 19 years we are more in love, more in faith, and more in God’s will than ever before. How is that possible? “It’s not by power, nor by might, but by my Spirit,” says the Lord.

I love you, Valerie. Happy anniversary!

As I said last year, it’s been a bumpy but wonderful ride. Thank you for staying in the car with me. I’m looking forward to the rest of the trip!

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5 responses to “19th on the 18th

  1. Thanks Anthony. What an encouragement.

  2. Congratulations and blessings to you both. I wish you continued happiness together 🙂

  3. Anthony, I’m glad you didn’t log out because I can’t usually remember how to log in and reply!

    Whew! This last year has been trying for sure! You have been great; in fact, there were times I wanted to eave you because I didn’t want you to have to bear it all, but you very lovingly told me that you wanted to be right beside me and that together we would make it. You have held me through my tears and pampered my through my pain. You have sat in waiting room after waiting room while I’ve had tests and procedures and stayed strong for me at each doctor appointment as I broke down. I couldn’t have made it without you!! You showed me, as well as others, what “in sickness and in health” really means.

    You are the greatest husband for me; God knit you that way. Sometimes I believe the ride as has been bumpy because we made bad choices, but from those we learned and worked together and our marriage grew stronger. Other times were not of our doing necessarily, but rather because we had to be molded and shaped into more of what God wanted us to become. It was hard at times and I agree, at times we didn’t understand. But I will agree that looking back over our shoulders at where we have been and we He has us now is a huge comfort.

    Thank you, Honey Baby, for 19 years. I love you…….most!!!

    But more than that, I thank The Lord for preparing us for each other, giving us these years and sticking with us!! As I reflect back, the song I sang so much as a child, and many times as we raised our girls comes to mind.

    http://lyricstranslate.com
    He’s got the Whole World in His Hands

    He’s got the whole world in his hands
    He’s got the whole wide world in his hands
    He’s got the whole world in his hands
    He’s got the whole world in his hands

    He’s got the little bitty baby in his hands
    He’s got the little bitty baby in his hands
    He’s got the little bitty baby in his hands
    He’s got the whole world in his hands

    He’s got the whole world in his hands…

    He’s got YOU and ME brother in his hands
    He’s got you and me sister in his hands
    He’s got you and me brother in his hands
    He’s got the whole world in his hands

    He’s got the whole world in his hands…

    He’s got everybody here in his hands
    He’s got everybody here in his hands
    He’s got everybody here in his hands
    He’s got the whole world in his hands

    He’s got the whole world in his hands..
    He’s got the whole world in his hands.

    H&K,
    Valerie

  4. Congratulations Anthony and Valerie! Praying for many more years of marriage and your service to the Lord!

  5. Congratulations to the both of you! I agree with you on the fact that some people quit and walk away from a marriage too soon. It takes time to cultivate a relationship. I speak from 32 years of marriage to my wife. I talk to young people all of the time who ask me how we have stayed together so long. I tell them it takes commitment. Divorce has never been an option for us. We agreed in the beginning to keep communicating until we solve the problem. I’ll admit that sometimes I’ve walked to another room in the hours for a couple of hours to cool off, but we’ve always been able to come together and work our problems out.

    Again, congratulations to you and your wife, and prayers and wishes for many more years to come!

    Mike

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