10 Things Jewish Believers In Christ Want You to Know

The following is a guest post written by Melissa Zelniker-Presser. She has a unique perspective on being Jewish and a Christian which makes this post a “must read.”. – Anthony Baker

A Mom’s Perspective

My son has ADHD. He may very well be on the spectrum for autism. That has caused a lot of people not to understand him, to judge him or to treat him with scorn, malice and contempt. In the four years that I have ridden the roller coaster of a parent who has a child that is not “the norm,” it is the misunderstanding and opinions of others that are often times worse than the disorder itself. I have heard everything from:

  • You must have done something wrong in your pregnancy
  • You have too many kids so he probably doesn’t get enough attention
  • You work so you don’t spend enough time with him
  • Don’t expect him to succeed

This is just some of the commentary and ignorance that I deal with on a daily basis. And it has made me see his world in a whole different light.

Recently a friend of ours from church who has an autistic son gave me a book entitled, “Ten Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You Knew,” by Ellen Notbohm.  I haven’t finished the book yet because I’ve stopped to pause and reflect on every page. The book is written from the perspective of the autistic child which is wholly unique. And although of course it can’t capture everything that child may be thinking or feeling, it is a valiant attempt at getting people to understand how that child feels.

I wasn’t even a couple of pages into the book when I thought about a recent series of questions I was asked about being a Jewish believer in Christ. These questions can oftentimes feel like science experiments, making me feel different and not so good about myself. Gentile brethren are oftentimes misguided and uninformed, asserting their theological opinions on who I am and what my journey to Christ may or may not look like. If I didn’t hold back, I’d want to shout from the rooftops, I am just like you! I am a Christian too!!! Why must you see me any different?

Reading the beginning of the book, the quick overview of the ten things that every child with autism wishes you knew, immediately sparked an idea in me to express to people the 10 things Jewish believers in Christ want you to know. Jewish believers are often polite and not forthcoming about their struggles, and I am hoping that by revealing some of my innermost thoughts, gentile brethren will understand where I am coming from as  Jewish follower of Christ.

Ten Things … From a Jewish Perspective

1. Please don’t expect that I know everything about the Jewish religion- Most Jews don’t.

We as Jews are oftentimes more cultural than we are religious. Being Jewish is part of our identity just as if someone was Hispanic. But this does not mean that we speak Hebrew, know the Old Testament or can recite an entire Passover Seder. There’s nothing worse than being called on or questioned about our Judaism in front of other believers.

2. Please don’t tell me I am no longer Jewish- Jewish people have a heritage and identity that resides deep within their souls. We bleed Jewish.

When we as Jewish women are pregnant, we are tested for Jewish specific diseases based on our ancestral heritage. Jesus was JEWISH. Jesus did not stop being Jewish when he was crucified and died, so neither do I. And please do not cite your authority for believing I am no longer Jewish as Galatians 3:28, you are misguided. Respect my heritage and who I am. Yes we are one body in Christ but I cannot change WHO I am. Being Jewish is part of who God made me and part of my identity.

3. Please don’t single me out amongst our brothers and sisters- There is nothing worse than having your well-meaning  Christian brother or sister introduce you as a Jewish believer.

If it comes up in conversation fine. But please don’t shout across the room and draw attention to me. I want to be just like you, a Christian. I am saved and redeemed by the blood of the lamb just like you.

4. Don’t expect that I know other Jewish believers- This happens all the time, I expect because we are somewhat of an anomaly.

Hey do you know Sally Jones, she is also a Jewish believer. No, no I don’t know Sally Jones. Why would I know Sally Jones? We are no longer living in the desert in close communion with one another. There are millions of us. Don’t expect me to know Sally.

5. Don’t put us down because we choose to keep our customs and traditions alive; this is not legalism!- Jewish custom and tradition is inherent for us.

We are rooted in the foods and holidays of our Jewish culture, and guess what, so was Jesus! People want to make Jesus a gentile, but he is not. He celebrated all of the Jewish festivals and grew up Jewish. Hello, the last supper was a Passover Seder! For many of us, these traditions bring us closer to Jesus and help our children understand who they are in Christ.

6. No we have not all been to Israel- I am American just like so many of you.

I have not been to Israel. Although I hope and pray that God will grant me that trip one day, I’ve never been as I am sure most of you haven’t either.

7. Stop telling me that my Jewish relatives will never make it to heaven unless they accept Jesus- You don’t know that and you don’t know whether someone has accepted Jesus as their Lord and Savior.

Jewish people are shunned once they become Christians and many may not outwardly profess Christ, but you never know what’s in someone’s heart.

8. Be sensitive to the fact that I am new to Christmas and Easter- Three years ago was our first Christmas and Easter.

It was hard for us to figure out how to celebrate and what to do. We have no traditions or family meals since we are Jewish. Do the Christian thing-invite us to yours, especially when you know we are new believers. Help us to develop our own traditions to pass on to our own children.

9. Love me for who I am and stop trying to make me a Gentile- I will never be a Gentile.

Love me for me, just as you would love any believer for who they are in Christ. Respect where I am in my walk with Christ, and encourage me in that as a Jew, not a Gentile.

10. You as a Gentile will never know what it’s like to be Jewish- No amount of bible school will teach you that.

Don’t try to be like me or try to use your biblical knowledge  to show me that. I’ll respect you more for the person that God made you, not the knowledge you have.

It is hard to be a Jewish believer in Christ. Friends and family will be sure to leave you. You are ostracized from your Jewish community and then many times inadvertently ostracized from your Christian one. We don’t fit in neatly, which is where you come in … to help us acclimate, to respect who we are, and to love us as Jewish believers in the Lord Jesus.



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22 responses to “10 Things Jewish Believers In Christ Want You to Know

  1. another friend that I can say I knew before they were famous πŸ™‚
    As always Melissa—you offer wisdom, knowledge, vulnerability and insight while embracing those who you address with a Spirit filled with honesty and love— bravo my friend

    • Melissa

      LOL, I don’t know about famous. Just being my usual vulnerable self, which God will not let me be otherwise. I feel sometimes like I’m totally naked and saying to God, look , look this is how much I love you. It is only Him that matters, so I write for an audience of ONE.

      • Melissa

        Thank you Lord. And thank you for Julie whom you’ve used as your servant so greatly in my life. Julie, let Him continue to use you, His words that flow through you are powerful.

      • When I was in high school, in my church’s EYC youth group , one of our priests explained that Jesus had left no written word. He was not the author of any book in the Bible. He left no written instructions for the disciples to reference when He was gone—so it was now our responsibility to be His written word—-Not that that is to always be in the literal sense as our actions are to be witness as well…but He wishes to use our words, our writings, our actions to share His message each and everyday—-you embody all of that Melissa…

      • Melissa

        Those words are something to ponder, wow that is profoud

  2. Melissa, I feel like I want to copy this on a card and have it available to hand out at church and at Bible study. THANK YOU for all these words that have been so difficult to say at a moment’s notice. Thank you for spending time to write and articulate how it feels to still be an outsider when we have the heart of Jesus beating inside us, and the Holy Spirit filling our souls.
    Thank you.

  3. Good advise. We should not judge and love one another for who they are. Thank you for sharing.

  4. wow! So practical, helpful, and vulnerable. Thank you!

  5. Sometimes Gentile Christians are not such good representatives for Christ

  6. These are all excellent points. You should visit The Association of Hebrew Catholics website. http://Www.hebrewcatholic.net. We would love to connect with you.

    • Melissa Presser, Lover of Jesus

      I have received some literature on the association and a prayer card of my beloved Edith Stein. Yes I think it’s time to connect! Is there a way to become a member?

    • I’d still love to understand the draw of Catholicism to Jewish believers. In the light of Paul’s letter to the Colossians, the whole idea amazes me.

      • Melissa Presser, Lover of Jesus

        I recently taped an episode for the Journey Home on EWTN that aired yesterday and will be airing twice more, and then posted to the internet (not sure if you have cable, a lot of people I know don’t have DVR or cable which is why I mentioned that it will be posted to the internet). Here is the link:

        Check the right side for my name and times. I mention the show because the Holy Spirit really led me to explain exactly how I got to the Catholic church. I think it is more complicated than a reply here, but as always we can talk over email. I just think the show sheds a lot of light on my conversion process, both to Christianity and then to the Catholic church. But if you want, we can talk about it here as far as some of the finer “bullet” points so to speak.
        As always, I love talking to you Pastor!

      • Btw, did you repost the “10 Things…” post? I was getting a lot of hits on that piece yesterday, so I was curious why the sudden interest. Didn’t mind the visits, that’s for sure πŸ˜‰

      • Melissa Presser, Lover of Jesus

        No the show aired yesterday at 8 pm so people started googling my name and blog and yours also came up. See we are kindred spirits 😊 Much love to you Pastor!

      • Melissa Presser, Lover of Jesus

        Btw I’d be happy to write a guest post explaining things 😊

  7. Lionel J. Lavertu

    Just to let you know that I listened to your “Journey Home” episode this morning which is why I googled your post. It was very inspirational. Oftentimes so-called gentiles believe in Christ but do not have the Christian devotion you have. I guess I’m a lukewarm catholic, s0-called, although I do have a strong faith. We catholics have a lot to learn from converts. I do agree with your observation on open churches. Unfortunately, with the increasing crime rate, due in large part to the drug epidemic, many churches are now locking up the doors for fear of theft.

    • Melissa Presser, Lover of Jesus

      Thank you so much for stopping by. I actually wrote this post for a dear blogging friend awhile back. I am so glad you enjoyed the show.
      You know, we are only as far away from Jesus as we want to be.
      This weekend, a good friend of mine who is an addict reached out to me after many months and asked to meet me at church. Although late, she made it to mass and was able to receive communion. Afterwards, she asked me, should I come back here? I have been away for so long. I told her Jesus is always here waiting for you, you can have as much of Him as you you could ever want, and these church doors are always open.
      So don’t call yourself lukewarm, call yourself His, faith is not made in titles or buildings but in Him alone. Once we get that straightened out, our worship at mass actually means something and receiving Him in communion means that much more.
      You can find me on my blog at https://godisinyourtypewriter.com/ or email me anytime at melissazpresser@gmail.com. Lots of love you to on this, His day.

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